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If that’s the case, then I’d lose interest pretty fast. He used to send morning texts, he used to text once or twice a day and he calls at the end of the day. “Based on your post, he seems to be the sole initiator of conversations. Similarly, you will talk more if you show enough interest. If he genuinely cares for you, it will never be an imposition. Sucks, right? We just have to be more expressive and take the leap. Of course, it gave him all sorts of wrong ideas that I don’t quite like him. I realised that I never asked this guy I was seeing to hang out with me because I was always conscious about not wanting to impose myself on him. Sometimes, it’s not about how much couples want to talk but also how much you can while continuing to be productive in life. Especially if it’s somebody i really like, if I’m texting all day i won’t get shit done because I’m focused on the person I’m texting not the job at hand,” a user explained. Somebody calls or texts in work hours and i wouldn’t know. “I know when I’m working sometimes I’ll have my phone where i can get to it but a lot of days I’ll put it on silent where i can’t see it. Now, maybe I am a talkative person and would love it if we had like four-hour jobs but since that’s not how it is, we gotta just take other things into account. From my perspective, all the best relationships I’ve ever seen have been able to grant each other space,” a user advised. If they think it’s a hassle, then make your decision. Someone wrote, “He’s still calling you once per day your all good.” However, it’s really not about that, is it? What matters is if your needs are met. She clarified, “Not that I’m overthinking it that much, it’s just that the past guys i’ve been with were really different.”Ĭomments started pouring in as people on Reddit helped her with different aspects of the situation. I’m not sure if that means cause he’s less interested now or he’s just comfortable enough with the connection we have and just really busy so i’m wondering if most guys are like that too? How much do you guys talk to your SO?” He manages to call before the day ends sometimes but that’s about it. They wrote, “How much do you talk to someone you’re with (exclusively or not) in a day or week? If not much, why?” They further said, “Do you guys always send them good morning texts? Or just talk to them before the day ends? Just wondering cause the guy i’ve been seeing stopped sending good morning texts like he used to and only texts me at least once or twice a day. Someone took to Reddit to figure the answers. In fact, is there a good enough frequency? The point being, how much connection on a daily basis is enough? How little is too little? It’s hard to tell if you and your partner are on a different page. Today, I may have gotten used to being distant but how do I say for sure when nobody’s calling me? We just texted every day and then spoke on calls rarely. Then I dated guys who weren’t that available – emotionally too but let’s focus on the calling bit for now. In my past relationships, I have wanted to speak every day and we did. There are couples who talk so little you wonder how do they bond. That’s cute if you seek that kind of connection. I get told that my company is appreciated and so forth.I know couples who prefer talking throughout the day via text and even call each other the moment they get a chance. In other words, I figure that if I'm privy to such information as their salary, then I must be a very close friend. I do not think my friends are "fake", and I do believe I feel important to them when they ask personal questions about me, involve me in activities, and share very personal details about their lives (without me having to probe them). However, I could let a month (or more) go by, and no one will reach out to me - Then I start to panic and question if I'm really important to anyone or not. Many of my friends have busy lives, so I guess it takes a load off them if someone else makes the plans. Either it's the nature of my social circle, or that I've trained them into it, but (unless it's something massive, like a birthday party) I find myself always being the one to do the asking out.